tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post8540026475979337088..comments2023-03-26T08:24:59.818-07:00Comments on Drama for Mama: It's Not Fairbeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15616867595961283505noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-58418556915230688932009-12-10T13:15:24.612-08:002009-12-10T13:15:24.612-08:00Oh, the things I have to look forward to. I dread ...Oh, the things I have to look forward to. I dread my daughter finding out how life isn't fair the hard way. It's such a tough lesson to face, let alone teach. Your thoughts are very insightful!lemonologiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12970524647705854751noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-43052051899400145522009-12-08T19:52:35.658-08:002009-12-08T19:52:35.658-08:00You know as a behavior modification teacher I see ...You know as a behavior modification teacher I see how well consistency works every day. I know it works. And still I am terrified to have to start disciplining Maya and being consistent. I want her to be happy. I want her to love me, to like me. I don't want to me the bad guy (like I often am in my classroom) and yet if I'm not, things will only be worse for her. <br /><br />Hannah's right: It's not fair!Carrie @ Who Knew?http://whoknewthiswasthehardpart.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-43314939177902389112009-12-07T17:51:18.239-08:002009-12-07T17:51:18.239-08:00OH some good thoughts here! But Becca - YOU are re...OH some good thoughts here! But Becca - YOU are really onto something here!!<br /><br />Might we also consider a place that all the ADULTS could go to just scream at the top of their lungs - <b>IT'S NOT FAIR!!!!</b> Really, I think it would do us so much good. And cheaper than therapy. And less destructive than oreo-abuse. Though... if we put together such a place AND served oreos (with or without alcoholic variations of milk and / or seasonal egg nog) - we could charge a little something and I could pay a utility bill or two. (Or hire a human mini-mouse trapper...) <br /><br />Great post. All too true. (Think about the screaming room for moms. Let's face it, it's mostly moms who need it. And special treatment for moms of teens. Trust me. Hormones + hormones, tra la.)BigLittleWolfhttp://dailyplateofcrazy.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-66199465433810774092009-12-07T09:29:37.163-08:002009-12-07T09:29:37.163-08:00Miss M. will be saying this soon, I fear. I guess ...Miss M. will be saying this soon, I fear. I guess I'll just have to say back to her, "You're right, it's not fair. Bummer, huh?"<br /><br />And then, of course, she will hate me.TKWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16409505008377005185noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-49297720529429238572009-12-07T08:13:31.517-08:002009-12-07T08:13:31.517-08:00I just read this and chills ran down my spine. My...I just read this and chills ran down my spine. My older son is two and we haven't gotten to the saying "It's not fair" stage, but the idea is there every time he asks for something he's had or done before, but can't have or do at the moment. I love Sarah's phrase, "Different rules in different houses." Such a great encapsulation of the way the world works, about the important lesson of learning context.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-13685476246977235192009-12-06T21:26:32.033-08:002009-12-06T21:26:32.033-08:00"And I'm realizing that this is when my C..."And I'm realizing that this is when my Consistency is so incredibly important."<br /><br />As a parent you often find out the hard way that consistency is one of the most important, and hardest, virtue to obtain. <br /><br />I am quickly finding out from my two babies that I must be consistent or I will be inundated with demands for cookies at dinner time.<br /><br />It's Not FAIR!!!amber_mtmchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17871256362646081536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-70976530653016262342009-12-06T19:05:53.910-08:002009-12-06T19:05:53.910-08:00Sarah stole my comment :)
No really, I love what...Sarah stole my comment :) <br /><br />No really, I love what she said. So true. <br /><br />Especially the parenting really is hard part. It is! It's NOT fair! :)Heather of the EOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607422301391841377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2066208660688484085.post-5764620053969598912009-12-06T17:55:41.357-08:002009-12-06T17:55:41.357-08:00First things first: I loathe the saying "It i...First things first: I loathe the saying "It is what it is." I understand it. But I hate it. It is a conversation - and a thought - ender.<br /><br />And moving on to "It's not fair." Nope. It's not. The whole "Life's not fair" slipping out of your mouth at your kids doesn't always feel great, but it's the truth. A lot of the questions about fairness are ended in this house by simply saying "Different rules in different houses." That combined with going to elementary school and REALLY seeing that everyone is different, has different limitations, allowances, wants and needs. <br /><br />The thing I struggle most with is the fairness between siblings. Why can Max have a candy bar right now and Jamis can't? Well, because if that candy bar will stop that child from screaming, them let him have it? And Jamis is old enough to listen to me and just shut up! so why would I give him the chocolate and spoil his dinner?<br /><br />Yikes.<br />This parenting shit is hard. ALl the way. And no, it's just not always fair for us either. But then you get into the whole topic of parental responsibilites. Equality. Which parent does what. Which parent doesn't do much of anything...<br /><br />Yup. and entirely different topic. And one that Jen and I spend plenty of time talking about.Sarahhttp://momalom.comnoreply@blogger.com